How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To

How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To

<p>Until now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Spring, a gifted therapist and the award-winning author of <em>After the Affair</em>, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives—without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness—one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us.</p><p>This bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and with ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these:</p><ul><li>How do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead?</li><li>When is forgiveness cheap?</li><li>What is wrong with refusing to forgive?</li><li>How can the offender earn forgiveness?</li><li>How do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?</li></ul>