Getting Them Sober: Vol 4 : Separations and Healings

Getting Them Sober: Vol 4 : Separations and Healings

If you're in the process of separating// getting a divorce ----- OR thinking about it ----- this book describes the usually-not-spoken-about HIDDEN issues that the non-alcoholic spouse is confronted with--- when going through this with an alcoholic.<br /><br />Chapters titles include ----<br /><br /> * Everybody blames the family<br /> * Don't try to make sense out of their nonsense<br /> * Knowing that it's hard to lose an alcoholic, helps us to calm down and keep us on the recovery path<br /> * The irregular behavior of the alcoholic keeps us attached<br /> * The alcoholic does not exist separately from the alcoholism<br /> * Excited misery keeps us attached to the alcoholic<br /> * Our need to caretake keeps us attached to the alcoholic<br /> * Facing our illusions ends their power to hurt us<br /> * Quick ways to detach<br /> * "I had to stop 'being so strong' so I could get the help I needed"<br /> * Remember the facts<br /> * It's YOUR decision whether or not to separate---- it's not your counselor's decision<br /> * Perfectionism<br /> * Courage to change the things we can<br /> * "I was able to decide to leave, even though he was sober and I was physically ill"<br /> * Share your story with discretion<br /> * What are examples of crazymaking that counselors should inherently know in order for us to trust their advice-giving?<br /> * "How counseling helped me decide"<br /> * "But he looks so good since we're separated. Maybe he's not an alcoholic?"<br /> * "But he's drinking less since we're separated. Can he be getting better?"<br /> * "I can't stop being angry with him!"<br /> * "When I see my alcoholic husband and he's nice to me, I get upset!"<br /> * "I can't forgive him"<br /> * "My denial, my compassion, and my guilt pulled me down into it with him, again"<br /> * "I've dropped the divorce proceedings six times, now"<br /> * "I feel guilty because I think I didn't do enough to make him want to be sober"<br /> * "I left a sober alcoholic"<br /> * "If I give up obsession, do I have to give up hope?"<br /> * "How can I help him after we're separated?"<br /> * What are the real problems about dating again?<br /> * Answering your legal questions about alcoholism, divorce, children, and court-ordered evaluations<br /> * Intervention<br /><br />TOBY DREWS' OTHER BOOKS---------<br /><br />"Getting Them Sober, volume one" ----------- Hundreds of practical and effective suggestions for sobriety and recovery. With over a million copies sold, largely by word-of-mouth----- this book is endorsed by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, by 'dear Abby' (who said ''this book should be read by everyone''), and by Melody Beattie (author of Codependent No More) -- who said "'Getting Them Sober' is the BEST book for the family of the still-drinking alcoholic.'' <br /><br />Other books in this award-winning series are --------<br />"Getting Them Sober, volume 2" (more on total family healing) <br />"Getting Them Sober, volume 3'' (half the book details the 350 secondary diseases // disorders to alcoholism) <br />"Getting Your Children Sober" (for parents of children ages 9 to 59 who have addiction problems) <br />"Sex & the Sober Alcoholic"<br />"Get Rid of Anxiety and Stress''<br />"Getting Them Sober Action Guide''<br /><br />ABOUT THE AUTHOR ----<br /><br />Toby Rice Drews trains counselors, writes, and offers phone consultations for family members.<br />Her AOL-lauded website --- www.GettingThemSober.com ---- is chock-full of help for families of alcoholics and addicts.<br />Toby Drews can be contacted at [email protected]